Should Students Move Back in with Their Parents
The excitement of the college experience is propelled by the thought that high school students will be finally moving away from their parents. To the students who do move away, several aren’t ready or resourceful enough for the real world. Most come back to their parents’ domain to focus on finishing their education.
If you’ve returned home, (or never left) you’re not alone. A U.S. Census analysis conducted by The New York Times in 2009 confirms that 48 percent of women age 18–24 and 56 percent of men 18-24 live at home with their parents.
The term Boomerang kids, is used to describe college students or grads who move back in with their families after years of being on their own. While their situations vary, most students return home for financial reasons and support. There is a stigma that this is something to be ashamed of, but what students should realize is, just because you’ve moved back home doesn’t mean you’ve moved backward in life.
The economy is terrible, and good jobs are hard to come by, let alone internships in the right field of study for students pursuing their academic goals. College will drain you financially and physically. Finding success is not getting easier. According to a report from the Institute for College Access and Success Project, the average student debt in 2011 was $25,250, a 5 percent increase from 2009.
“The years from 18 until 25 and even beyond have become a distinct and separate life stage, a strange, transitional never-never land between adolescence and adulthood in which people stall for a few extra years, putting off the iron cage of adult responsibility that constantly threatens to crash down on them. They’re betwixt and between,” according to a 2005 article in TIME magazine.
The stress of having to pay bills and rent while dealing with roommate drama can all be avoided by moving back home with mom and dad, and students do make that decision. If you’re in a transitional period in life, like most students are, (moving back with your parents will allow you to) focus on getting that degree, make money, or getting a job.
For the inexperienced younger students, battling with the idea that independence means physically separating from the parental units here is a reality check: life is tough. Use common sense, living successfully in the home of the parents who raised you to be an adult is reasonable. The dynamics between students and parent could change, but hopefully for the better. If they’re lucky enough to have a happy and healthy home life where they are able to be independent without reverting back to living like a child then take they should advantage. The student may be surprised how his relationship with his parents can change now that there’s one more adult living under the family’s roof.
It may be hard for students to see themselves living at home during their college years. However they should try to step back and be objective, put an end to the stress of the back and forth and recognize that these years are just an investment in a much greater picture.
I understand this frustration, after each attempt to move out I’d come back home kicking and screaming. However, once the power struggle between myself and my family ceased I started to see my situation as an opportunity for greatness, instead of the ultimate failure.